1. Changes in Phone or Tech Habits
- Suddenly puts a password on phone or changes it without telling you
- Becomes secretive about calls, texts, or social media
- Frequently deletes messages, call logs, or browser history
- Keeps their phone on them at all times, even in the bathroom or while sleeping
2. Emotional & Physical Distance
- Becomes less affectionate or emotionally available
- Shows less interest in spending time together
- Conversations are shorter, colder, or more distant
- Appears disconnected, distracted, or uninterested in your life
3. Increased Focus on Appearance
- New wardrobe, cologne/perfume, or grooming habits
- Sudden weight loss or gain tied to fitness routines
- Seems like they’re “trying to impress someone” – but it’s not you
4. Suspicious Schedule Changes
- Unexplained late nights or “working overtime”
- More business trips or outings with friends they don’t want you to join
- Vague or changing stories about where they were or who they were with
- Frequently unavailable or hard to reach during certain times
5. Sexual Behavior Shifts
- Significant drop (or sudden spike) in sexual activity
- Trying new moves or kinks without explanation
- Seems emotionally disconnected during intimacy
- Avoids sex completely or makes excuses frequently
6. Changes in Communication
- Easily irritated or defensive when questioned
- Starts unnecessary fights to justify leaving or disconnecting
- Gaslights you – makes you feel like you’re imagining things
- Avoids meaningful conversations or deep topics
- Unexplained charges on credit cards
- Hidden receipts, new memberships, or gifts you didn’t receive
- ATM withdrawals from unfamiliar locations
- Becomes secretive about finances or accounts
- You just feel something is off – even if you can’t explain it
- You catch yourself questioning things you used to trust
- You’re more anxious or suspicious, and it feels justified
- Pay attention to patterns, not just one-off behaviors
- Avoid accusing without evidence – focus on communication
- Journal what you notice – it helps keep thoughts organized
- Seek support – whether through therapy, a trusted friend, or a private investigator if needed
- Trust your instincts – even if they don’t mean cheating, they mean something needs attention
